Puberty — the word alone can make both parents and children squirm. But the truth is, this phase doesn’t have to be a storm of embarrassment and confusion. In India, conversations around puberty are still largely whispered. According to a 2020 UNESCO report, 71% of Indian girls report not knowing what menstruation is before their first period, and boys often fare no better.
Let’s change that by starting here!
Be the First to Talk
Children now hit puberty earlier — girls by 10–11 and boys by 11–12. If you’re not talking to your child by 9 or 10, someone else (often social media) will. Start with body science, not shame. Keep it anatomical. Books like Growing Up by Kiran Ananth or Menstrupedia Comic are fantastic India-centric resources.
Use the Right Words
Saying “pee-pee” or “down there” keeps things vague and embarrassing. Use the actual terms: vulva, penis, periods. Kids mirror your comfort level.
Let Them Ask the Awkward Stuff
“Do boys get periods?” Don’t panic — stay open. If you don’t know, research it together. They’re building trust and emotional safety.
Focus on Body Positivity
With beauty filters and body-shaming everywhere online, affirming your child’s changing body is crucial. Avoid comparisons and teach them every body type is valid, not just the Instagrammable ones.
Talk Consent and Boundaries
Puberty is also when peer influence kicks in. Teach them to say no, respect others’ no, and understand physical autonomy — skills that protect them for life.
Talking about puberty doesn’t take away innocence. It gives them knowledge, dignity, and protection.
References:
- UNESCO (2020). The State of Sex Education in India. https://en.unesco.org/reports
- PATH India (2019). Adolescent Health in India. https://www.path.org
- Menstrupedia. (2022). Menstrupedia Comic Series. https://www.menstrupedia.com